Saturday

Upgrade Your Mind

Build Your Self-Esteem By Conquering Challenges 
Do you feel as though you're in a rut?  Does nothing feel engaging or entertaining?  When you want to make sure you're still in the right direction and you don't want to settle for a mundane life, you'll discover that you need to start challenging yourself.
When you take on a challenge head first, you're forcing yourself to grow. When your self-esteem needs a boost, challenging yourself can help you see yourself in a new light.
What Kind of Challenges Should I Pursue?
No matter what type of challenge you undertake, don't assume you're going to get started on it "sometime soon." Think about what steps you need to take to get there today.  Whether it involves making some phone calls or getting some certifications, make some time to get it done as soon as possible. 

The Don't Quit Poem


Monday

Never Put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to Use Enemies

A close friend can betray you more quickly. This is because they are easily aroused to envy and jealousy over the success of their partner.

Why you must be careful of your friends:

1) Friends can become spoiled and tyrannical.
This first reason is very real. Your friend knows you in and out. He knows about your past, about your today and also believes in your tomorrow even though he doesn’t portray the opposite. They can become spoiled easily. The bond between both of you could be adulterated either through material gains and pleasures of life. When a man is murdered, check it very well, the close friend may know something about that death if not every thing. Where was your friend when something really terrible happened? He is supposed to be there for you. A real friend is definitely more than a bad brother. Yes, he is.

Friends can make or mar your life forever. Putting too much trust on them will result in a state of pride and tyranny on their part. They would come to the conclusion that without them, you will not survive. No, we are only there to uphold each other. Two can do it better than one person that is why we became friends in the first instance.


2) Your former enemy can do it better.
Hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend. This is because he has more to prove. Your deadliest enemy is not even your enemy per say, but your closest friend. They knows where you spend the weekend every Friday, they know what your favorite meal is. Your enemy doesn’t know. How would they get at you? But through a close companion; your best friend. In fact, you have more to fear from your friends than from your enemies. If you have no enemy, find a way to make them. They can cook your meals without evil thoughts, because they know that they are at the mercy of the law and conscience of men.
How to Know a Good friend

When you say you have a friend, then he must know about your past failures, mistakes and agony and accept them as they are. He can’t change them, but he can live with them. He must also accept your endeavors for today knowing fully well that tomorrow would be better. And lastly, he must believe in your future plans, ambition. Though their may not be same as yours, but nevertheless, he must approve of it. He will show you the good side of every pain you’re going through. This is who a friend is and that is what you should go for. If you already have a friend or friends and they do not align to this paragraph, first: rapport with them on the need for goal agreement. Secondly, ask for their consent. If they refuse any of these, learn to do a way with them and look for another. Being alone is worse than having bad friends. Learn to make good friends. Life is all about choice. But if you must choose a friend, choose the best. See you at the top.
Keep friends - make money too
Keep friends - make money too ok?

The Importance of Working Together With Your Team


The principle of working together with your team should underpin how you operate. Managing people doesn't just mean acting as overseer, to see that they get their work done satisfactorily. It means involving people throughout the team in a creative role, to ensure that together you are all able to succeed.
Involving people on broad issues is motivational. Never underestimate people. Their views can enhance everything: methods, standards, processes and overall effectiveness.
Remember, managers are not paid to have all the ideas that are necessary to keep their section working well in a changing world, but they are paid to make sure that there are enough ideas to make things work and go on working.
Use your people and make it clear to them that you want and value their contributions.

Sunday

Why Is Time Management Important? Here Are 9 Quick Reasons

It is interesting to see there are some people who would still ask – Why is time management important?
As if the benefits aren’t obvious enough. Or I reckon they probably have not tried time management hence the benefits never occurred to them. For those who are here and wonder why is time management so important, then I hope these quick answers will get you on the right track and start managing your time more purposefully.


1. Helps You Prioritize
Well, time management is important because it helps you prioritize your work. Once you have a list of things you need to tackle, you need to see what you should do first. What are those that are important and time sensitive. That way, you set out to do those first.
2. Get More Done In Less Time
The other reason why time management is important is that you will get more done in less time. When you plan your time, you will see the amount of work that needs to be tackled. That puts into context how much time you need. Inevitably, you will know not to laze your time away.
3. More Quality Work
When you plan your time you are making wise investment of a very limited resource – time. Knowing what to work on, when and how much time you have to finish the work makes you more focused. That focus on the work ensures that you get more quality work out. 

4. Keeps Things In Context
Sometimes you may hear people complaining that there is no balance in their lives.
Ever wondered maybe the reason is that they do not know how to manage their time? A possibility, maybe. One reason why is time management important is that it can put things into context for you.
If you see the list of work you have and the things you need to do, then you will be forced to make tough decisions. Especially on what to spend your time on and how to spend your time.

5. Forces You To Do Things You Do Not Like
This is one of my personal favorites. Why is time management important? Simple, when you write down what you need to do – it is there staring at you. You are forced to tackle it. To me it is a target I have given myself and so I must live up to the challenge regardless of how much I hate doing it.
6. Keeps You On Track
Whether it is a daily work list or a long-term career plan – time management keeps you on track. With your goals stated and time allocated, the likelihood of you staying within the boundaries you have given yourself is higher. Of course, do not be your own jury and judge. That means do not give yourself excuses when you start to procrastinate.
7. Making Sure You Deliver What’s Promised
How would you deliver what you promised on time if you do not manage your time? Have you always disappointed your colleagues on the delivery of your part of the project? Perhaps you aren’t doing well with time management. Making sure you deliver what’s promised should be reason enough why is time management important.
8. Time Is Limited
There is a Chinese proverb that loosely translates this saying ‘no amount of gold can buy you time.’ Time ticks away regardless you like it or not. Why is time management important? Because time is limited. Once lost, you cannot gain it back.
9. Helps Discipline Ourselves
Time management is a huge part of managing yourself. If you cannot manage time and won’t manage your limited resources, how do you plan to achieve your goals? I find that learning to manage time helps to discipline yourself.
By now you should get a fairly good idea why is time management important. Once you start you will immediately feel its benefits. That will keep you going.

Saturday

The Power of Positive Thinking

The following story illustrates how this power works:

Allan applied for a new job, but as his self-esteem was low, and he considered himself as a failure and unworthy of success, he was sure that he was not going to get the job. He had a negative attitude towards himself, and believed that the other applicants were better and more qualified than him. Allan manifested this attitude, due to his negative past experiences with job interviews.
His mind was filled with negative thoughts and fears concerning the job for the whole week before the job interview. He was sure he would be rejected. On the day of the interview he got up late, and to his horror he discovered that the shirt he had planned to wear was dirty, and the other one needed ironing. As it was already too late, he went out wearing a shirt full of wrinkles.
During the interview he was tense, displayed a negative attitude, worried about his shirt, and felt hungry because he did not have enough time to eat breakfast. All this distracted his mind and made it difficult for him to focus on the interview. His overall behavior made a bad impression, and consequently he materialized his fear and did not get the job.
Jim applied for the same job too, but approached the matter in a different way. He was sure that he was going to get the job. During the week preceding the interview he often visualized himself making a good impression and getting the job.
In the evening before the interview he prepared the clothes he was going to wear, and went to sleep a little earlier. On day of the interview he woke up earlier than usual, and had ample time to eat breakfast, and then to arrive to the interview before the scheduled time.
He got the job because he made a good impression. He had also of course, the proper qualifications for the job, but so had Allan.
What do we learn from these two stories? Is there any magic employed here? No, it is all natural. When the attitude is positive we entertain pleasant feelings and constructive images, and see in our mind's eye what we really want to happen. This brings brightness to the eyes, more energy and happiness. The whole being broadcasts good will, happiness and success. Even the health is affected in a beneficial way. We walk tall and the voice is more powerful. Our body language shows the way you feel inside.
Positive and negative thinking are both contagious.
All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through thoughts and feelings transference, and through body language. People sense our aura and are affected by our thoughts, and vice versa. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people and avoid negative ones? People are more disposed to help us if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity.
Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment.

Practical Instructions

In order to turn the mind toward the positive, inner work and training are required. Attitude and thoughts do not change overnight
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Read about this subject, think about its benefits and persuade yourself to try it. The power of thoughts is a mighty power that is always shaping our life. This shaping is usually done subconsciously, but it is possible to make the process a conscious one. Even if the idea seems strange give it a try, as you have nothing to lose, but only to gain. Ignore what others might say or think about you, if they discover that you are changing the way you think.
Always visualize only favorable and beneficial situations. Use positive words in your inner dialogues or when talking with others. Smile a little more, as this helps to think positively. Disregard any feelings of laziness or a desire to quit. If you persevere, you will transform the way your mind thinks.
Once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to be aware of it and endeavor to replace it with a constructive one. The negative thought will try again to enter your mind, and then you have to replace it again with a positive one. It is as if there are two pictures in front of you, and you choose to look at one of them and disregard the other. Persistence will eventually teach your mind to think positively and ignore negative thoughts.
In case you feel any inner resistance when replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, do not give up, but keep looking only at the beneficial, good and happy thoughts in your mind.
It does not matter what your circumstances are at the present moment. Think positively, expect only favorable results and situations, and circumstances will change accordingly. It may take some time for the changes to take place, but eventually they do.

101 Tips to Become a Better Mom of Faith

Let’s face it, Motherhood is the most stressful job in the world. As Christian Moms, the task can be even more tedious as we strive to tech them moral values, to love and seek Daddy God, and how to walk in love in a world filled with sin, selfishness and hate.
As Moms, we pour our lives into our children and then hope they will at least call or write on occasion throughout their adult lives.
These tips are meant to show our kids that we love them, value them and believe in them. They are to help us all be better Mothers. The more we strive to be the most excellent Mom we can be the better our chances are of seeing our children grow into the well rounded, morally sound, Biblically aligned, God loving adults we hope for them to be!
101 Tips to Become a Better Christian Mother
1. Smile more. Believe it or not our children need smiles from us…not scowls!
2. Make eye contact when communicating with them.
3. Read to them. Even when they get older, read Scriptures out loud. Even older children like this.
4. Do devotions together…age appropriate, of course.
5. Do a project together. This can be arts and crafts or a school project.
6. Help them with their homework.
7. Cook or bake with them.
8. Create family traditions. They not only help bring the family together, they also provide stability and opportunity to keep the family together.
9. Listen more.
10. Ask more.
11. If you are married, honor your husband. This is vital for your children to see. Strive to be a better wife and pray for ways to improve your marital relationship.
12. Pray with them.
13. Pray for them.
14. Get silly.
15. Laugh at yourself.
16. Go to the movies together and see what they want. (morally and age appropriate)
17. Have a girls night. (Moms of daughters)
18. Have a date night. (Moms to sons)
19. Try new things and activities together.
20. Play with them.
21. Have a tickle fest. You are never to old to be tickled!
22. Say ” I love you” often. Do not assume they know. SAY it. A LOT.
23. Speak positive words over them and to them.
24. Criticize less.
25. Live by example.
26. Read the Bible to them and in front of them. They need to SEE you have a personal walk with Jesus. They will only do what they have learned.
27. Take lots of pictures. They love to look at old pictures and see the memories and ways you took the time to capture the moments.
28. Scrapbook their lives.
29. Attend their important event and activities. It means a lot when you are in the stands cheering them on!
30. Write them a love letter.
31. Make their favorite dinner for no reason.
32. Cheer for them. We need to be their biggest fans in life. Make sure they KNOW it!
33. Encourage them.
34. Hug them.
35. Kiss them.
36. Put little “thinking of you” notes in their lunch box.
37. Leave a special prize where they are sure to find it when doing their chores or other activity.
38. Allow them to mess up.
39. Forgive them.
40. Apply 38 and 39 to yourself as well. You will never be perfect. There are NO such things as perfect Mothers!
41. Encourage open communication. They need to know they can talk to you and share without fear of your reaction.
42. Let them be individuals. Do not try to live your dreams through them. LET THEM BE THEM!
43. Dream with them.
44. Encourage them to go after their dreams.
45. Be consistent in discipline.
46. Hold them accountable.
47. Reward them for a job well done.
48. Dedicate a song to them on the radio.
49. Compliment them often. We are responsible for teaching them good self esteem.
50. Bring them to church.

51. Get them involved in church.
52. Encourage a life of excellence. Teach them to do well and not settle for mediocre.
53. Teach them to appreciate learning and the importance of a good education.
54. Encourage creativity.
55. Tell the truth. If they hear you lie or you lie to them…they will lie.
56. Expect honesty from them.
57. Teach them the importance of Scripture memorization.
58. Apologize when you mess up. They deserve an apology when needed.
59. Support them.
60. Accept them.
61. Know their friends and parents of friends.
62. Keep track of what they do and who they are with.
63. Nurture their relationship with their dads. It is important that our kids have a relationship with their dad that is separate from ours.
64. Go on trips and vacations as a family…big and small.
65. Have family fun nights.
66. Make them feel special all year long…not just on special occasions.
67. Provide boundaries.
68. Encourage them to have personal boundaries.
69. Follow through.
70. Give them chores. Our daughters need to learn how to be good wives and our sons need to learn how to be helpful husbands.
71. Respect their privacy. (Unless you feel they are in danger)
72. Give them age appropriate responsibilities.
73. Teach them how to resolve conflict.
74. Spend time with them one on one…this is especially important with multiple children.
75. Help them develop a spiritual life.
76. Put them in a youth group at church.
77. Never take ANY church activity away from them as a form of punishment for bad behavior. Even if it is a fun event. It is still with their Christian peers and leaders. They may get convicted and/or it will allow God to work on their hearts. They NEED church.
78. Volunteer as a family.
79. Encourage giving.
80. Learn their love language and love them accordingly.
81. Lighten up!
82. Make a family time capsule and put a time limit on it of about 5 years…that is long enough…you want them still home when you open it! Talk about it…laugh and remember. Great bonding experience.
83. Prioritize them. They need to be a top priority in your life. First comes God (not ministry…relationship)…then husband (if married), then they are next. They need to see they are important…BUT…if married they also need to see that you are lined up Biblically and united with husband.
84. Do not give them everything they want. That can be very dangerous.
85. Teach them to be thankful for what they have.
86. Teach them good work ethics. Encourage hard work.
87. Involve them.
88. Teach moral values. Use the Word of God as your standard…not the world.
89. Pray for their friendships and future spouse.
90. Teach them good hygiene. LOL! Yes…I think it is important!
91. Promote healthy eating and fitness.
92. Yell less.
93. Say “thank you” more.
94. Never take them for granted.
95. Cherish them and your moments together…you only get so many.
96. Pick them up when they fall.
97. Let them vent.
98. Love them unconditionally.
99. Be available when they need you.
100. Limit media influence. The world we live in is a mess. Be vigilant in what you allow into their eyes, ears and hearts.
101. Repeat 1-100 as often as possible!
I hope these tips encourage you to be all that you were created to be as a Mother. God loves us SO much and gave us the precious gifts of our children…let’s be good stewards with the lives He entrusted us with!
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The Unlimited Power of Imagination

Behind where I am sitting now is a framed poster showing a photograph of Albert Einstein. Underneath his picture is one of my favorite quotes, which says that “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” When it comes to human transformation, too much press is given to the power of the subconscious mind and totally ignores [...]

Dealing With People Effectively

The most important species you come in contact with on daily basis is people. Unless you are living alone on a deserted island, you cannot escape one reality of life: you have to deal with people everyday. Wherever you go, and whatever you do, there are people and people and people you have to tackle.
The people you come in contact with everyday can assume any of the following forms.
Your boss; business partners; government officers; your assistants and servants; your spouse; your friends, the judges (if you are connected with legal profession); your enemies etc. The examples are unlimited. In addition to the people you are already come in contact with, there are people who will come in contact with you in future. Unless you are already a ‘people-person’, you might be finding it a bit difficult to deal with people.
Previously I was of that type. But then, I realized that the world we live in is an interdependent world. I also realized that the very basis of success in legal profession which I am in, is founded on contact with people. So decided to do something about it and to learn to make me comfortable dealing with people. Irrespective of the profession or job you are in, you cannot do away with dealing with people. So wisdom demands that we learn and master this art.
In this article I will be sharing with you some of my insights on how to be comfortable while dealing with people.
Love yourself first.
Learn to love yourself. The first step I took in the direction of dealing with people effectively was to improve my self-esteem. I realized that for being able to effectively deal with people I was lacking in this basic requirement: a high self-esteem. By operating from low self-esteem it is difficult to deal with people effectively. The reason is obvious. With low self-esteem you always unconsciously put yourself below the person you are dealing with, consequently resulting in making your transaction with the person ineffective. (I am using the word ‘transaction’ not in the restricted sense of commercial transaction, but in a wider sense to include all kinds of social and emotional transactions)
Your Self-esteem level
So check your self-esteem level. If your level of self-esteem is already higher, then congratulations. You already possess one of the most important ingredients for being able to effectively deal with people. Probably the chances are that you are not suffering from this problem at all. But if this is not the case then you should seriously take steps to improve your self-esteem. Learn to love yourself. You need to learn to put the other person in perspective. I learnt this by reading “The Magic of Thinking Big” by Dr. David Schwartz, and “See You At The Top” by Zig Ziglar. In addition I created my own self-hypnosis tapes for enhancing my self esteem and they proved to be of great help.

Recognize that each and every person is different
That is undeniable truth. Each and every person is different just as the thumb impression of each and every person born on this plane is different. It is now a matter of common knowledge, and scientifically proved, that the thumb impressions of no two persons on this planet, match. Recognize the fact that no two individuals (including you) are identical and accept this difference. Everyone is different. Engrave this truth on your mind like an inscription on a rock. The difference I am talking about is not just external difference on physical level. That difference is obvious and it does not require an article like this to be written for stating something obvious.
Accept the difference
What is significant to note is that each person is different internally too. What you like, and think that the other person will also naturally like, may not be liked by the other. What motivates you may be a put off for the other. What excites you may be a cause of depression for another. You may like slim girls or slim boys, but that may not be the liking of your close friend. You may be interested in personal development, but your close friend, your spouse or those around you may not find it worthwhile. Examples can be limitless. The point is that we recognize this fact; we accept this fact and we operate on that basis in our daily lives.
Respect The Difference
Having recognized and accepted the truth that each and every person is different, the next and most important thing to do is to respect the difference. Respecting the difference means absence of any contemptuous feelings for the other individual and trying to understand the other person. Understanding the other person is a great way to establish good relationship.
Nahush Khubalkar is a lawyer, speaker and writer based in India. He learns and applies success principles, skills for personal development for the betterment of his life. He loves to share his insights with, and to make a positive difference in the lives of those who desire to lead a positive and meaningful life.

Thursday

Clear the Mind of Negativity & Fill it with Positivity


Make a list of the things that worry you most and decide if they are in your circle of influence or worry. Think about what you can really do to have an influence on each of them in an effective way. By determining which of these two circles is the centre around which most of your time and energy revolves, you can discover a great deal about your level of positivity. 

Positive people focus on the things they can do something about. If necessary, they change their attitude. They are aware that perhaps they cannot change the circumstances but they can improve their inner attitude. This is what positive focusing is all about: being creative, thinking differently, being open to listening, being more understanding, more communicative and showing more solidarity. 

Reactive people focus on the problems of the circle and on the circumstances about which they have no control. They react to the defects found in other people. From this worrying, accusations, destructive criticism, feelings of blame, a reactive language and feelings of weakness and frustration can arise. They want others or the circumstances to change first and when that happens, then they will change. Whenever they think that the problem is on the outside, this thought is the problem. 

The negative energy produced as a result of this approach, combined with the lack of attention to the areas in which they could do something to improve the situation, means that the area of influence decreases in size. They give power to what is external so that it dominates them. In other words they think that change must come from "outside towards the inside"; they think that something that is outside must change before they themselves change. 

Wednesday

3 Simple Ways To Start Believing In Yourself

f you’ve spent much of your life dismissing your talents and doubting your capabilities, it can seem like an impossible goal to begin believing in yourself. Since believing in yourself is such a vital part of goal achievement, overcoming your doubt and disbelief is crucial if you want to improve your life.
Believing in yourself is a simple matter of changing the way you think about yourself and your capabilities. Remember that negative thinking is a habit, whether it applies to you or the circumstances of your life.
In order to develop a strong belief in yourself, try these 3 steps:
Acknowledge your potential.
Self-doubt is often the result of an ongoing barrage of assumptions. You assume you cannot succeed at your goals because you haven’t succeeded at many things before. You assume you have no talent because your third-grade teacher once told you so. You assume you are destined for a mediocre life because you’ve never pushed yourself beyond your limits.
It’s important to understand that your assumptions are not necessarily true! You have accepted them as truth, but if you take a few minutes to really think about them, you’ll probably be surprised to realize that you may not have considered all possible angles. Be willing to revisit your assumptions and challenge them. You don’t have to change your mind about them yet, but be open to the possibility that you were wrong about yourself.
Be willing to try anyway.
Even worse than making assumptions about yourself is when you don’t even TRY to do something better for yourself, simply because you believe it would be a waste of time. This is the worst disservice you could do to yourself!
Starting right now, make a pledge to give everything your best shot from now on. Don’t worry about whether it’s possible or not. Don’t worry about whether you’ve failed in the past or whether you’ve got what it takes to succeed this time around.
Simply make a promise to TRY – no matter what comes of it.
Prove it to yourself.
If you really want to shatter your illusions of inability, take a sheet of paper and make a list of all the things you believe you cannot do. They can be little things or big things; it doesn’t matter. Just write down every single thing you believe you are incapable of doing.
Then, make it a point to prove yourself wrong by going out and doing them. Notice I didn’t say “doing them well.” I said simply, “doing them.”
You’ll never know until you try!
One word of caution with this method: be sure you don’t sabotage your own efforts in order to prove yourself right. For example, perhaps you believe you can’t get a better job than you have now. In order to “prove” that your belief is right, you go out and apply for jobs that are far beyond your skill or experience level. Of course, you don’t get called for interviews since you weren’t qualified for those jobs, and you conclude that your original suspicion was correct.
Don’t do that to yourself. The idea is to move slightly beyond your comfort zones, not to overwhelm and sabotage yourself.
With every positive result you achieve, you will eventually build up a stronger belief in yourself, and you can keep expanding your comfort zones to achieve more and more!

If You Can Dream It, You Can Do It

When asked what the number one key to success is, Charney replies, “Passion. That’s it. When you believe in what you’re doing, that’s it.”

Charney’s current success with American Apparel might seem like something of a fairy tale to those who have just tuned in. But delve a little deeper and it becomes apparent that Charney is an entrepreneur like any other – one who has had to be resilient in the face of numerous obstacles.

“I think I was a born hustler,” he says. “I like the hustle. I like selling a product that people love. It’s nice when a girl tries on a bra or a tie-dye t-shirt, and it’s, ‘Ooh, I love it.’”

Charney’s hustling days began when he was just in high school. Although his hyperactivity more often than not got him into trouble with his teachers, Charney found a way to channel that energy by the time he got to college. There, he began a business buying t-shirts at Kmart and exporting them back to his native Canada. “I started bringing like 5,000, 10,000 t-shirts at a time, on a U-Haul truck in the summer, and I developed a kind of importing business, from the United States to Canada,” says Charney. “That’s why it’s called American Apparel.”

Charney’s first success would be short-lived. He was arrested and with that, decided to end his importing business. But he did not quit. Charney believed in his dream of running a clothing company. To that end, he borrowed $10,000 from his father, dropped out of school and moved to South Carolina to begin manufacturing clothes. It did not matter to him that he had no experience.

Unfortunately, however, it did matter to his business. As his competitors began to outsource their operations, Charney’s business crashed. Still, even after he filed for Chapter 11 bankruptcy protection, Charney remained determined to see his dreams through.

“I knew I could do it differently, and I knew I could turn it around,” he recalls. “And I knew there was a solution and there was no way, that kind of passion or can-do spirit; I said there’s no way I'm stopping now.”

Charney brought on board a new team of staff to help him reorganize his company. After making it more efficient and developing a strong marketing machine, his dreams had finally come true. He was the CEO of a successful clothing company.

“When you believe in what you’re doing, that’s the first thing,” says Charney. “And you have to be resilient, because people are going to try to knock you down.” Each time Charney got knocked down, he got right back up because he knew he could. He knew that it would be his passion alone that would make or break his career; it was just up to him to choose which one.

“Anything we want to do, we can do,” Charney says. “If we can dream it, it can be done.”

Tuesday

YOU STILL HAVE HOPE !

 If you can look at the sunset and smile,
then you still have hope.
If you can find beauty in the colors of a small flower,
then you still have hope.
If you can find pleasure in the movement of a butterfly,
then you still have hope.
If the smile of a child can still warm your heart,
then you still have hope.
If you can see the good in other people,
then you still have hope. 

If the rain breaking on a roof top can still lull you to sleep,
then you still have hope.
If the sight of a rainbow still makes you stop and stare in wonder,
then you still have hope.
If the soft fur of a favored pet still feels pleasant under your fingertips,
then you still have hope.
If you meet new people with a trace of excitement and optimism,
then you still have hope.
If you give people the benefit of a doubt,
then you still have hope.
If you still offer your hand in friendship to others that have touched your life,
then you still have hope.
If receiving an unexpected card or letter still brings a pleasant surprise,
then you still have hope.
If the suffering of others still fills your with pain and frustration,
then you still have hope.
If you refuse to let a friendship die,
or accept that it must end,
then you still have hope.
If you look forward to a time or place of quiet and reflection,
then you still have hope.
If you still buy the ornaments,
put up the Christmas tree or cook the supper,
then you still have hope.
If you can look to the past and smile,
then you still have hope.
If, when faced with the bad,
when told everything is futile,
you can still look up and end the conversation with the phrase..."yeah...BUT.,"
then you still have hope.
Hope is such a marvelous thing.
It bends, it twists, it sometimes hides,
but rarely does it break.
It sustains us when nothing else can.
It gives us reason to continue and courage to move ahead,

when we tell ourselves we'd rather give in.
Hope puts a smile on our face
when the heart cannot manage.
Hope puts our feet on the path
when our eyes cannot see it.
Hope moves us to act
when our souls are confused of the direction.
Hope is a wonderful thing,
something to be cherished and nurtured,
and something that will refresh us in return.
And it can be found in each of us,
and it can bring light into the darkest of places.
NEVER LOSE HOPE!

Positive Thinking Your Key to Success

Positive thinking brings inner peace, success, improved relationships, better health, happiness and satisfaction. It also helps the daily affairs of life move more smoothly, and makes life look bright and promising.

Positive thinking is contagious. People around you pick your mental moods and are affected accordingly. Think about happiness, good health and success, and you will cause people to like you and desire to help you, because they enjoy the vibrations that a positive mind emits.

In order to make positive thinking yield results, you need to develop a positive attitude toward life, expect a successful outcome of whatever you do, but also take any necessary actions to ensure your success.

Effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling yourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be your predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter your mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.
Are you willing to make a real inner change?
Are you willing to change the way you think?
Are you willing to develop a mental power that can positively affect you, your environment and the people around you?

Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:
Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, 'I can', 'I am able', 'it is possible', 'it can be done', etc.


Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts.

In your conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.

Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualize with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results.

Associate yourself with people who think positively.

Always sit and walk with your back straight. This will strengthen your confidence and inner strength.

Walk, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude.

Think positive and expect only favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, your mental attitude will affect your life and circumstances and change them accordingly.
Follow the tips and suggestions in this article, and prove to yourself the reality the power of positive thinking. More advanced and powerful techniques, instructions and exercises can be found in the following books:

Jinnah awards celebrate achievements of British Pakistanis

The Jinnah Awards began in 2009 to recognise the positive contributions made by British citizens of Pakistani origin and to help inspire young people from the Pakistani diaspora. The Foreign Secretary launched the event and had the honour of presenting the ‘Friend of Pakistan’ award to Islamic Relief for their outstanding positive contribution to the development of Pakistan.

The Jinnah Award winners included:

Media: Mr. Sarfraz Manzoor

• A writer, journalist, documentary maker, and broadcaster. He writes regularly for the Guardian and also presents documentaries on BBC Radio 4 in the UK.
Business: Mr. Azeem Ibrahim

• Azeem is a self made multi-millionaire and one of the wealthiest young people in the UK.  He was named as one of the Top 100 Global Thinkers of 2009 by the LSDP European Social Think Tank and named a Young Global Leader by the World Economic Forum.
Sports Personality: Amir Khan

• Amir Khan is the current WBA World light welterweight champion. He also became the youngest British Olympic boxing medallist when he won silver at the 2004 Athens Olympics at the age of 17.
TV/Film: Riz Ahmed

• Is an MC, musician and actor. He is noted for his lead performances in ‘The road to Guantanamo’, ‘Shifty’ and ‘Four Lions’
Music: Aziz Ibrahim

• He is a Manchester-based guitarist with Asia, Simply Red and formally with The Stone Roses
Imran Khan was also awarded with a lifetime achievement award at the event.

Titliyon k mausam main nochna gulabon ka

Titliyon k mausam main nochna gulabon ka
reet iss nagar ki hai aur janay kab se hai

sheher k ye bashinde nafraton ko bo ker bhi
intazar kerte hain fasl ho mohabbat ki

bhool ker haqeeqat ko dhoondna sarabon ka
reet is nagar ki hai aur jane kab se hai

abhi tum naye ho na isi liye pereshan ho
aasman ki jaanib iss tarha se mat dekho

aafatain jab aani hoon tootna sitaroon ka
reet iss nagar ki hai aur jane kab se hai

khamshi mera sheva guftagoo hunar uss ka
meri begunahi ko loag kese manain **

baat baat per jab k maangna hawalon ka
reet iss nagar ki hai aur jane kab se hai

ajnabi fizaoon main ajnabi musaafir se
apne har ta'aluq ko daayemi samajh lena

aur jab bichar jana...mangna duaaoon ka
reet is nagar ki hai aur jane kab se hai

Monday

Human Rights in the 21st Century

Human rights define our quality and way of life.  We must remain alert and committed to making them a reality for all people in the world. In order to do so, we must first understand what basic human rights are as defined by the Universal Declaration of Human Rights.
In 1948 the United Nations wrote the Universal Declaration of Human Rights that established international standards to help nations educate their citizens about the rights and freedoms they are entitled to in their daily lives.  
Despite this effort to guarantee universal rights for all human beings, human rights violations still occur around the world. Today, the challenge for all of us is to fulfill the promise of the Universal Declaration for our generation and tomorrow's.

Basic Human Rights for All..

The promise of the Declaration depends on the committment of individuals, communities and countries to forge a common understanding of human rights among governments and their citizens to reaffirm these values of human dignity and equality for generations to come.
The United Nations bureau of the Office of the United Nations High Commissioner for Human Rights (OHCHR) oversees human rights globally.  Its mission is to protect the human rights of all people, educate all people about their rights, and help governments achieve basic human rights for all.
Every country in the world is in violation of at least some Article of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, so in addition to the OHCHR, many other organizations take action to protest the governments of countries that are violating International Human Rights Law.

So How Do Motivation And Positive Thinking Connect?

Discover how motivation and positive thinking can help you achieve what you want







Generally speaking, when we say that we are not motivated to do something, we mean that we don't feel like doing it or that we don't find any reason that would make us want to do it.

Sunday

Awareness and Motivation to Change Negative Self-Talk

This study examined the effectiveness of a logbook and paperclip technique on awareness of the use and content of negative self-talk as well as the motivation to change negative self-talk. Participants (n = 73) completed a questionnaire measuring these variables, and were assigned to either a control, paperclip or logbook group. Participants performed three typical training sessions over a three-week period. The logbook group completed a self-talk logbook after each session whereas the paperclip group carried out a paperclip exercise during each session. Upon completion of the training sessions, the questionnaire was readministered. ANCOVAs revealed no significant differences between the groups for motivation to change and awareness of the content of negative self-talk. However, the logbook group had significantly greater awareness of their use of negative self-talk compared with the control group. A qualitative analysis of the logbook group’s use of negative self-talk provided insights into the situations that prompted negative self-talk, the content of the self-talk, and also the consequences of using negative self-talk. Collectively, the findings offer some support for the use of the logbook technique in the applied setting.



Authors: James Hardy, Ross Roberts,

Saturday

congratulation Pakistan > Josh-e-Junoon



COLOMBO: Paceman Umar Gul claimed three victims as Pakistan beat Australia by four wickets on Saturday, ending the defending champions’ unbeaten 34-match World Cup run and capturing top spot in Group A.

Friday

X-ray machine from 1896 compared to modern version


The original system was developed by high school director H J Hoffmans and local hospital director Lambertus Theodorus van Kleef from Maastricht in the Netherlands.
 
 
 
 
Following a publication by X-ray discoverer Wilhelm Roentgen just weeks before, the pair built their device from parts found at the high school and used it for anatomical imaging experiments.
The machine ended up in a warehouse in Maastricht and was unearthed last year for a history programme on television.
Then Gerrit Kemerink of Maastricht University Medical Center decided to put the equipment to the test against a modern system.
"To my knowledge, nobody had ever done systematic measurements on this equipment, since by the time one had the tools, these systems had been replaced by more sophisticated ones," said Dr Kemerink.
The team carefully recreated the experimental conditions that the machine's inventors would have used.
 Given that a high radiation dose might be required to carry out the tests, the team obtained a hand from a cadaver as their imaging subject - rather than the "young lady's hand" listed in Hoffmans and van Kleef's notes.
Within a year of the rays' discovery they had become both a medical and theatrical showpiece, and the first indications arose that extensive exposure could be harmful. As a result, part of the race in X-ray science has been produce better images with less radiation exposure.The team accordingly found that using a modern detector, a radiation dose 10 times higher was required from the antiquated system when compared to a modern one.
Using a photographic plate and the same imaging conditions Hoffmans and van Kleef used, a dose 1,500 times higher was required.What is more, the X-rays exited the machine over a broad area, leading to blurry images.But putting the equipment to the test was evidently reward enough for the authors"Our experience with this machine, which had a buzzing interruptor, crackling lightning within a spark gap, and a greenish light flashing in a tube, which spread the smell of ozone and which revealed internal structures in the human body was, even today, little less than magical," they wrote.

Public Awareness over Environment

The public need awareness over environment because everyone has to know
about the treats to our environment. if every one knows about this, so
they will take some steps or advice youngsters not to do anything that harms
our environment.
environment is nothing but the place where we survive. everyone is a public.
so, they may find new methods to make our products without destroying plants
and other living beings.
one can save his petrol and oil and any other non - renewable resource, that
will be very useful for the future generations. we should not deny our future from

the great gifts of nature.

Pakistan's first female taxi driver

Zahida has had to drive long distances on treacherous routes to northern areas.

Let's meet with Pakistan's First female Texi Driver Zahida Kazmi. She has driven from the crowded markets of Islamabad to the remote tribal country in the north. Here she tells Nosheen Abbas about her two decades in a male-dominated world.

At the age of 33 In 1992, widowed Zahida Kazmi decided to take her fate in her own hands and become a taxidriver. 

Environment awareness : Afridi



ISLAMABAD: Environment Minister Hameedullah Jan Afridi on Monday said that his ministry’s focus was on creation of public awareness of environment protection and ways to offset negative effects of climate change.


Talking to Swedish Ambassador Ulrika Sundberg at the ministry, Afridi said several initiatives had been taken to involve students in public awareness campaigns about environmental issues.


He said green clubs were being formed in schools with an aim to conserve environment.


The minister said efforts were on to increase the country’s forest cover. “We carry out tree plantation campaigns in the country’s various parts on a regular basis with the help of public and private organisations, students and general public,” he said.


He said he was hopeful that such activities would lead to better public awareness of environmental issues and thus, better protection of environment.


Afridi appreciated the role of media in highlighting issues and challenges facing environment. He called for better use of modern technology to effectively deal with environmental challenges faced by the country.


He declared global warming and climate change as a threat to environment. “We are among those countries, which face adverse effects of environmental changes. However, we are alive to the challenge and trying to cope with it in an effective manner,” he said.

Thursday

A Healthy Life

I've never been an athlete. I've never been much interested in sports, ever since I stopped playing touch-football with the boys, when I hit puberty. I've tried tennis. I hit the ball too high, too long, and way over into left field. I've tried softball. Thank goodness that ball is "soft" and big, because it felt just awful when it hit me in the eye. I tried running, but I couldn't get anyone to chase me.

I tried swimming, but even though I float like a cork, and have had numerous lessons, I can't seem to get over the idea, that I'm really going to drown. Finally, I settled on walking, and for a number of years, I walked 3 to 5 miles a day. I realize that there is an Olympic sport referred to as "walking," but when I tried that, all I succeeded in doing was throwing my hip out.

I'm definitely NOT an athlete, but I make do, especially in my "mid-life" years. Which brings a question to my mind. When did I hit mid-life? I remember when I hit thirty. I had to visit a grief counselor, because I knew my life was over. I remember forty. I had to see a grief counselor, the day after my first child graduated from high-school and moved out of the house, because I knew my life was over. I remember forty-four. For some reason I thought my life was over. Then I hit fifty, and I was all excited, because I was able to join an organization called AARP. My husband was, especially, excited because he is younger than I, and he got to join, too!

Fifty became the magic age. I knew that as long as I was in good health, in this day and age, I probably had a good fifty years ahead of me. Then came the asthma. O.K., I had that much earlier, but it only became life threatening after fifty. Then came the firbromyalgia. O.K., I had THAT earlier, but it's not life threatening. Then came the arthritis, and, more recently, at fifty-five, came the diabetes. Somewhere, along in there, I became very interested in pharmaceuticals, and, finally, one day, I became free.

I began by noticing the sunsets, and I had the time to stop and really wonder, at the beauty and the magnitude of it all. Then I moved onto the sunrises, and I quickly found out that if I wasted the early morning, I missed the loveliest part of the day. Then I began to notice how grateful I was to be able to witness the changing of the seasons. The first whisper of spring; the rustling of the leaves beneath my feet, in the fall; that first breathless covering of a winter's snow; and in the summer, all the flowers, and the buzzing of a bumblebee.

When illness would hit me, I found that I, actually, enjoyed the solitude. A time to reflect, gather my thoughts, and pray, at leisure. I found that I was "experiencing" this mid-life season, and I was no longer missing every moment, shackled to the chains of worry, and what "might" be. I found that worrying about tomorrow, only served to make me overlook the blessings of today.

It's not always easy. A few loads of laundry, and a pile of dishes can take an entire day; but then I don't push myself a lot. So, I forget to make the bed, as I watch the rosy glow of dawn meet the rising sun. I have time to walk our little, wooded acre with my little dachshund straining at the leash. I get to read the "signs," with my Happy Dog, sniff the air, and gaze out at nowhere, studying the sky, with the same intensity that my little dog studies the ground.

I get to meet the day, every day. I get to say "good-night," to the sunsets. I've studied a lot of sunsets, in the last five years, and I've never seen two that were alike. I get to know my Creator as I never have before, and I've gotten to make MY mind up, about the mysteries of life; and I have grown certain, that all this was no accident.

I feed the birds, and I take great delight in their multicolored hues, especially in the spring. I drag a chair to stand on, so that I can fill the feeders to the brim, myself. I say a little prayer, as I wobble, a little cock-eyed on the chair, and I laugh, at myself, and all the pretensions of my younger life. I take great delight in my life. I thank God for all the precious little things of every day. Friends. Family. Neighbors. And health. A health of the soul. For I have come to understand what real health is, and when you have REAL health, then you truly have everything. 

by: Jaye Lewis

The Novels of Jane Austen on Film

Unsurprisingly, Pride and Prejudice has been the Austen novel most often adapted for film. The first big screen interpretation came as early as 1940, when Aldous Huxley wrote the screenplay for a version which starred Greer Garson as Elizabeth Bennet, with Lawrence Olivier as Mr Darcy. The film won an Oscar for best Art Direction. More recently Keira Knightley and Matthew Macfadyen stepped into the shoes of the feisty couple in 2005, Knightley was Oscar nominated for her role, and the film was generally well received, although it arguably failed to eclipse the 1995 television adaptation which shot Colin Firth to fame.


in this Novel . Pride and Prejudice also received two modern updates in the early 2000's. In 2003 the story was modernised and Elizabeth Bennet was portrayed as a student in a film starring Kam Heskin and Orlando Seale. In 2004 Bride and Prejudice gave the tale the Bollywood treatment, Aishwarya Rai in the lead role, renamed Lalita Bakshi, and Martin Henderson as an American Darcy giving the movie cross-continental appeal.

Sunday

Inventors of the Modern Computer

The first Apple was just a culmination of my whole life." - Steve Wozniak, Co-Founder Apple Computers
Following the introduction of the Altair, a boom in personal computers occurred, and luckily for the consumer, the next round of home computers were considered useful and a joy to use.
In 1975, Steve Wozniak was working for Hewlett Packard (calculator manufacturers) by day and playing computer hobbyist by night, tinkering with the early computer kits like the Altair. "All the little computer kits that were being touted to hobbyists in 1975 were square or rectangular boxes with non understandable switches on them..." claimed Wozniak. Wozniak realized that the prices of some computer parts (e.g. microprocessors and memory chips) had gotten so low that he could buy them with maybe a month's salary. Wozniak decided that, with some help from fellow hobbyist Steve Jobs, they could build their own computer.
On April Fool's Day, 1976, Steve Wozniak and Steve Jobs released the Apple I computer and started Apple Computers. The Apple I was the first single circuit board computer. It came with a video interface, 8k of RAM and a keyboard. The system incorporated some economical components, including the 6502 processor (only $25 dollars - designed by Rockwell and produced by MOS Technologies) and dynamic RAM.

Saturday

Fun with Books – Practical Ways to Make Your Children Love Books

It is natural for children to love playing rather than reading. However, you can cultivate the habit of reading in your children by following simple tactics. It is a good idea to sit and read before children as the child psychology is to imitate the parents. You will find your children soon picking up books to read. At least pretend as if you love books and this will also create a positive wave and a true love for books among your children.
Choose interesting books with alluring pictures so that your kids will read again and again or at least open it to have a glance at the images. Place books everywhere, on the table in the drawer, in your car, near the mirror, on the sofa and let your children have a glance at them.
Get them a variety of books including stories, practical science, history, and magazines. Fun books and jokes attract children as they can share the jokes with their friends. It is a good idea to enroll them in the public library near by and go with them to spend some time in the library reading books. Also borrowing books from the library saves you a lot as well as urges your kids to complete the book before the due date.
Trying out recipes of cookbooks and other science models in the books you provide them will create a great interest among you children for books. Once they are really interested in reading you can provide them with classic novels and plays that will greatly improve their vocabulary, language, and personality.