Monday

Never Put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to Use Enemies

A close friend can betray you more quickly. This is because they are easily aroused to envy and jealousy over the success of their partner.

Why you must be careful of your friends:

1) Friends can become spoiled and tyrannical.
This first reason is very real. Your friend knows you in and out. He knows about your past, about your today and also believes in your tomorrow even though he doesn’t portray the opposite. They can become spoiled easily. The bond between both of you could be adulterated either through material gains and pleasures of life. When a man is murdered, check it very well, the close friend may know something about that death if not every thing. Where was your friend when something really terrible happened? He is supposed to be there for you. A real friend is definitely more than a bad brother. Yes, he is.

Friends can make or mar your life forever. Putting too much trust on them will result in a state of pride and tyranny on their part. They would come to the conclusion that without them, you will not survive. No, we are only there to uphold each other. Two can do it better than one person that is why we became friends in the first instance.


2) Your former enemy can do it better.
Hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend. This is because he has more to prove. Your deadliest enemy is not even your enemy per say, but your closest friend. They knows where you spend the weekend every Friday, they know what your favorite meal is. Your enemy doesn’t know. How would they get at you? But through a close companion; your best friend. In fact, you have more to fear from your friends than from your enemies. If you have no enemy, find a way to make them. They can cook your meals without evil thoughts, because they know that they are at the mercy of the law and conscience of men.
How to Know a Good friend

When you say you have a friend, then he must know about your past failures, mistakes and agony and accept them as they are. He can’t change them, but he can live with them. He must also accept your endeavors for today knowing fully well that tomorrow would be better. And lastly, he must believe in your future plans, ambition. Though their may not be same as yours, but nevertheless, he must approve of it. He will show you the good side of every pain you’re going through. This is who a friend is and that is what you should go for. If you already have a friend or friends and they do not align to this paragraph, first: rapport with them on the need for goal agreement. Secondly, ask for their consent. If they refuse any of these, learn to do a way with them and look for another. Being alone is worse than having bad friends. Learn to make good friends. Life is all about choice. But if you must choose a friend, choose the best. See you at the top.
Keep friends - make money too
Keep friends - make money too ok?

The Importance of Working Together With Your Team


The principle of working together with your team should underpin how you operate. Managing people doesn't just mean acting as overseer, to see that they get their work done satisfactorily. It means involving people throughout the team in a creative role, to ensure that together you are all able to succeed.
Involving people on broad issues is motivational. Never underestimate people. Their views can enhance everything: methods, standards, processes and overall effectiveness.
Remember, managers are not paid to have all the ideas that are necessary to keep their section working well in a changing world, but they are paid to make sure that there are enough ideas to make things work and go on working.
Use your people and make it clear to them that you want and value their contributions.

Sunday

Why Is Time Management Important? Here Are 9 Quick Reasons

It is interesting to see there are some people who would still ask – Why is time management important?
As if the benefits aren’t obvious enough. Or I reckon they probably have not tried time management hence the benefits never occurred to them. For those who are here and wonder why is time management so important, then I hope these quick answers will get you on the right track and start managing your time more purposefully.


1. Helps You Prioritize
Well, time management is important because it helps you prioritize your work. Once you have a list of things you need to tackle, you need to see what you should do first. What are those that are important and time sensitive. That way, you set out to do those first.
2. Get More Done In Less Time
The other reason why time management is important is that you will get more done in less time. When you plan your time, you will see the amount of work that needs to be tackled. That puts into context how much time you need. Inevitably, you will know not to laze your time away.
3. More Quality Work
When you plan your time you are making wise investment of a very limited resource – time. Knowing what to work on, when and how much time you have to finish the work makes you more focused. That focus on the work ensures that you get more quality work out. 

4. Keeps Things In Context
Sometimes you may hear people complaining that there is no balance in their lives.
Ever wondered maybe the reason is that they do not know how to manage their time? A possibility, maybe. One reason why is time management important is that it can put things into context for you.
If you see the list of work you have and the things you need to do, then you will be forced to make tough decisions. Especially on what to spend your time on and how to spend your time.

5. Forces You To Do Things You Do Not Like
This is one of my personal favorites. Why is time management important? Simple, when you write down what you need to do – it is there staring at you. You are forced to tackle it. To me it is a target I have given myself and so I must live up to the challenge regardless of how much I hate doing it.
6. Keeps You On Track
Whether it is a daily work list or a long-term career plan – time management keeps you on track. With your goals stated and time allocated, the likelihood of you staying within the boundaries you have given yourself is higher. Of course, do not be your own jury and judge. That means do not give yourself excuses when you start to procrastinate.
7. Making Sure You Deliver What’s Promised
How would you deliver what you promised on time if you do not manage your time? Have you always disappointed your colleagues on the delivery of your part of the project? Perhaps you aren’t doing well with time management. Making sure you deliver what’s promised should be reason enough why is time management important.
8. Time Is Limited
There is a Chinese proverb that loosely translates this saying ‘no amount of gold can buy you time.’ Time ticks away regardless you like it or not. Why is time management important? Because time is limited. Once lost, you cannot gain it back.
9. Helps Discipline Ourselves
Time management is a huge part of managing yourself. If you cannot manage time and won’t manage your limited resources, how do you plan to achieve your goals? I find that learning to manage time helps to discipline yourself.
By now you should get a fairly good idea why is time management important. Once you start you will immediately feel its benefits. That will keep you going.

Saturday

The Power of Positive Thinking

The following story illustrates how this power works:

Allan applied for a new job, but as his self-esteem was low, and he considered himself as a failure and unworthy of success, he was sure that he was not going to get the job. He had a negative attitude towards himself, and believed that the other applicants were better and more qualified than him. Allan manifested this attitude, due to his negative past experiences with job interviews.
His mind was filled with negative thoughts and fears concerning the job for the whole week before the job interview. He was sure he would be rejected. On the day of the interview he got up late, and to his horror he discovered that the shirt he had planned to wear was dirty, and the other one needed ironing. As it was already too late, he went out wearing a shirt full of wrinkles.
During the interview he was tense, displayed a negative attitude, worried about his shirt, and felt hungry because he did not have enough time to eat breakfast. All this distracted his mind and made it difficult for him to focus on the interview. His overall behavior made a bad impression, and consequently he materialized his fear and did not get the job.
Jim applied for the same job too, but approached the matter in a different way. He was sure that he was going to get the job. During the week preceding the interview he often visualized himself making a good impression and getting the job.
In the evening before the interview he prepared the clothes he was going to wear, and went to sleep a little earlier. On day of the interview he woke up earlier than usual, and had ample time to eat breakfast, and then to arrive to the interview before the scheduled time.
He got the job because he made a good impression. He had also of course, the proper qualifications for the job, but so had Allan.
What do we learn from these two stories? Is there any magic employed here? No, it is all natural. When the attitude is positive we entertain pleasant feelings and constructive images, and see in our mind's eye what we really want to happen. This brings brightness to the eyes, more energy and happiness. The whole being broadcasts good will, happiness and success. Even the health is affected in a beneficial way. We walk tall and the voice is more powerful. Our body language shows the way you feel inside.
Positive and negative thinking are both contagious.
All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through thoughts and feelings transference, and through body language. People sense our aura and are affected by our thoughts, and vice versa. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people and avoid negative ones? People are more disposed to help us if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity.
Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment.

Practical Instructions

In order to turn the mind toward the positive, inner work and training are required. Attitude and thoughts do not change overnight
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Read about this subject, think about its benefits and persuade yourself to try it. The power of thoughts is a mighty power that is always shaping our life. This shaping is usually done subconsciously, but it is possible to make the process a conscious one. Even if the idea seems strange give it a try, as you have nothing to lose, but only to gain. Ignore what others might say or think about you, if they discover that you are changing the way you think.
Always visualize only favorable and beneficial situations. Use positive words in your inner dialogues or when talking with others. Smile a little more, as this helps to think positively. Disregard any feelings of laziness or a desire to quit. If you persevere, you will transform the way your mind thinks.
Once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to be aware of it and endeavor to replace it with a constructive one. The negative thought will try again to enter your mind, and then you have to replace it again with a positive one. It is as if there are two pictures in front of you, and you choose to look at one of them and disregard the other. Persistence will eventually teach your mind to think positively and ignore negative thoughts.
In case you feel any inner resistance when replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, do not give up, but keep looking only at the beneficial, good and happy thoughts in your mind.
It does not matter what your circumstances are at the present moment. Think positively, expect only favorable results and situations, and circumstances will change accordingly. It may take some time for the changes to take place, but eventually they do.